I was so touched this week when Ginger Zee, ABC meteorologist, noted that she had been a victim of domestic abuse as the story of Gabby Petito's disappearance and death unfolded. Ginger addressed the facts that she had 1) the support to lend her money to leave and 2) she felt comfortable calling police. ABC meteorologist Ginger Zee shares her past experience with abuse in the wake of Gabby Petito’s death | ABC4 Utah.
Domestic violence (also referred to as intimate partner violence (IPV), dating abuse, or relationship abuse) is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship, The National Domestic Violence Hotline's definition.
I am including the website links, should you or someone you know need to access them.
Understand Relationship Abuse | The National Domestic Violence Hotline (thehotline.org)
Power and Control Wheel | The National Domestic Violence Hotline (thehotline.org)
Phone: 800-799-7233 (safe)|24/7 availability| Live Chat
I really appreciate the website's safety concern as individuals read the information. This is evidenced by adding links that one can exit safely, to minimize the abuser from seeing the searches.
Know that there are several initial questions about one's safety as one talks, how the person is taking care of themselves, potential resolutions in the situation, what's on the caller's mind and getting help, which includes a plan for safety. There is no set description of who receives abuse nor who abuses.
It is important to move through this sensitive, potentially dangerous issue with prayer and caution.
Often, the one on the receiving end of the abuse is not able to discuss the situation openly with even trusted friends. Anyone can call, do live chats or visit the websites for more direction on how to help.
This verse can be insightful too: Psalm 22:24: For He has not despised nor detested the suffering of the afflicted; nor has He hidden His face from him. But when he cried to Him for help, He heard.
The moving point of this verse is that God recognized that affliction and suffering occurred. God is not hidden during the crisis. God heard the cry for help. This means that partners are placed on the path to assist and give additional direction. Reach out; use earthly helpers.
Lord, give the person this is addressed to - clarity about what is happening in their relationship, courage and consistent directions to a peaceful culmination to this abusive situation, in Jesus Christ's name.
2 Timothy 1:7: For God has not given us a spirit of fearfulness, but one of power, love, and sound judgment. Lord, thank you for power, love and sound judgment within those who experience abuse.
I pray that the bondage of power and control to be broken in the abuser's mind and heart. Do not let them destroy another person’s self-respect, self-worth, convictions or confidence in Jesus Christ's name. Allow the exploiter to "treat people the same way they want to be treated, for this is the Law and the Prophets, Matthew 7:12.
Calls to action:
1. Review the links within this post, so you know how to help, if warranted.
2. Read other posts on my website: https://www.marilynnjames.com/. Buy a book to share.